Between all the parties and celebrations and other couples getting engaged all around you during the holidays, sitting there waiting and wondering if you’re going to be next can just about make you nuts. The worst is when you really thought he was going to ask you to marry him, but he didn’t — and you already told your parents and best friends that you thought the ring was coming so everybody was primed and ready.

So what should you do if you are deeply in love and expected to get engaged over the holidays and it didn’t happen? The first thing you have to do is forget about everybody else’s expectations. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed that he didn’t propose. It doesn’t reflect on you in the slightest. Prepare an answer to the inevitable questions from friends who knew you were expecting a proposal: Something along the lines of, “I’ve still got my fingers crossed — there are plenty more holidays in 2015!”

Unless he told you he was going to propose, he might not have the slightest clue you thought he was even considering proposing to you right now! He might think the holidays are cliché and have something much more wonderful already planned for down the road.

If you’re really heartbroken, talk with your guy and tell him how you’re feeling. It’s a good way to find out if you’re on the same page as far future plans go for you as a couple.Brides Magazine articlebride thought-you-were-getting-ring