How Many Bridesmaids Are Too Many Bridesmaids?

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Figuring out how many bridesmaids to choose (let alone who to choose) can get stressful. Sometimes choosing bridesmaids can feel like you’re the captain of the kickball team looking at a crowd of eligible players, trying to choose the top 5 or 10 for your team. But just because you have a lot of close friends or family members, doesn’t mean they all need to stand by your side on your wedding day. They can be there for you in other ways that don’t require a hand-picked chiffon dress or a rehearsed gallop down the aisle. If you find yourself breaking out in a stress sweat over how many bridesmaids to choose, remember these four rules for choosing your bridesmaids.

4 Rules for Deciding How Many Bridesmaids to Have

  1. There’s No “Right” Bridesmaid Number

You don’t need a certain number of bridesmaids. You don’t have to choose an odd number or an even number or a certain number, like five, because you’ve seen that most people on your Facebook timeline have selected that amount. It’s not a numbers game and there’s certainly no rule of thumb you should abide by when it comes to how many women (or men) to lead the way for you down the aisle.

  1. Don’t Feel Pressure to Have the Same Amount of Bridesmaids as Groomsmen

You also don’t need to have the same number of bridesmaids as your fiancé has groomsmen. The only time anyone will notice that you have less bridesmaids than he has groomsmen, is when it’s time to walk down the aisle. Which, by the way, no one really pays much attention to because their sitting their fidgeting with excitement, waiting for you to walk down the aisle. If you’re nervous about your pictures looking off with an uneven number, ask the photographer to stage different setups and poses for the pictures so that it’s not just a straight line of people standing beside one another.

  1. Just Because Someone Chose You as a Bridesmaid Doesn’t Mean You Have to Choose Them

If you’re picking your bridesmaids based on who has picked you in the past, you may have over 20 bridesmaids (this is a shout-out for us “always-a-bridesmaid” girls). You don’t have to grace someone with the bridesmaid honor just because they graced you. If you’re still close with them, go for it! If you haven’t spoken in two years, it may be a little awkward rekindling your friendship during your wedding adventure.

  1. It’s Okay to Not Have AnyBridesmaids—Or Include a Bridesman Instead

You absolutely don’t have to have any bridesmaids at all. There’s no cardinal rule about how many bridesmaids you should have. It’s just an age-old tradition, and you can still have a booming bachelorette party and invite all your gal-pals—they may even be happier in the long run that you saved them from having to shell out a clump of cash to buy a bridesmaid dress they are never going to wear again! On the other hand, have a guy in your life that you can’t imagine leaving out? By all means—bestow the “bridesman” title upon him and add him to the group.

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You’re the social butterfly of your clique and always like to keep a gaggle of girls (or guys) around you to ham it up with. Your motto in life is to work hard, play hard and that you do! After a long day at the office, you can either be found partaking in happy hour, meeting up with your meetup group or hosting a dinner party with your besties and their significant others too. You’re charming and utterly irresistible so it’s no wonder people are naturally drawn to your bubbly energy.

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You’re a modern day nomad with besties scattered all across the country. Some may say you’re indecisive, but your friends mean the world to you, and there’s no way you could picture saying I do without them all standing by your side. You jump at the chance to take girls’ vacays and enjoy gossiping about everything from celebrities to fashion to fiancé with them. Others would describe you as outgoing, fun to be around and even the life of the party from time to time.

4 to 6 Bridesmaids

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While you love socializing and hanging out with your friends, you also like your alone time and can get overwhelmed when there’s too many people around at once. Your bridal party most likely consists of your sister or or sister-in-law, your BFF since childhood and a few other ladies you’ve know for years and are currently still close to. You may have been a dancing machine in your single days, but now you enjoy drinks and dinner (and brunch, of course) with the girls on the weekend.

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You couldn’t decide between your group of girls so you simply opted to ask only your bestie or your sister (or both) instead. That doesn’t mean you won’t have some of the rest of your squad stop by for a quick champagne toast before the ceremony, or hit the dance floor together at the reception. You’re fiercely loyal, all about family and would do anything for the people you love in your life. In your free time, you like nothing more than hitting up a local museum, going to an art show or even checking out your favorite up-and-coming band at a dive bar. On the other hand, you’re also completely happy having a movie night in with your man.

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You march to the beat of your own drum, and as far as tradition goes, you’re certainly not afraid to break with it. Of course, you have several close friends you could ask, but your wedding is small and you really want the focus to be on you and your fiancé. That’s not to say you like being the center of attention though; in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Small talk totally isn’t your thing, as you much prefer deep conversations to mindless chitchat.

 

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Your daughter is getting married!

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Your daughter is getting married! This is a momentous time in your life, a beautiful and awe-inspiring occasion for both of you. You are witnessing your little girl step into the full bloom of her womanhood, watching her as she stands on the precipice of an extraordinary transformation. Where has the time gone? Wasn’t it just yesterday that she was taking her first steps, then trotting off to school, going on her first date, graduating from high school, and finally leaving home? The beauty and challenge of motherhood is that as tightly as you would like to hold on to your precious one, you continually need to let go. And with each letting go, you watch her step further into the unique woman that she is, embracing her strengths, challenging her weaknesses, learning what it is to be human. And now she is getting married.

The Real Reason You Have to Buy Your Wedding Dress So Far in Advance

You’re newly engaged, and you’re excited… to go wedding-dress shopping! And while your wedding date (if you’ve even set one yet) may seem like it’s ages away, it’s actually a good idea to head to the bridal salon sooner rather than later. The reason? A made-to-order wedding dress from a bridal salon takes about six to nine months to make! Sometimes it may take a little longer. So gather your hand selected family or friends that will to help you say YES to your dress! Aside from the fact that it may take you some time to find the One, you’ll need to perfectly time your three MAYBE four fittings, allowing for custom alterations and then some more custom alterations. To help explain why it takes so many months to perfect your dress, here’s a breakdown of the timeline—from purchasing your dream wedding dress to walking it down the aisle.

9-12+ months before the wedding: Once you say YES to your dream wedding dress, the bridal consultant will measure you and possible measure hollow to hem if the dress requires it.  Your wedding dress is crafted in many different areas of the world. The gowns are made to order.

3+ months before: The gown should be finished and at the salon. when you come in to try on your gown for the first time If you have not selected the headpiece, veil, and accessories this is a good time to do that. Just in case your gown is not in yet, you have wiggle room before the first fitting! If the salon had to place a rush delivery because the wedding date was much closer, then you may be starting your alterations weeks before the wedding. No worries because no matter what your wedding gown will be ready in plenty of time for your special day!

6 to 8 weeks before: If you start alterations at this point, Keep your weight stable from here on out.

On your 2nd or 3rd fitting: There may be minor tweaks (change neckline, trim train, Etc.).

1-2 weeks before: last fitting. The gown should be almost flawless. Try on your entire wedding look.

2 days before: Pick up your finished gown.

The Big Day: Show time!

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How to Have a Wedding Morning That’s All Chill and Zero Drama…

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Have food figured out.

Don’t wait until you’re half made-up and hangry to send someone out in search of snacks (vending-machine Peanut M&Ms are not going to have you feeling like your best self, protein notwithstanding). Whether you’re getting ready at a hotel or at home, eliminate any guesswork and hassle by pre-ordering breakfast/brunch for delivery or to be picked up by a family member; pay when you place the order to nix one more day-of logistic. You could assign out food strategizing to a reliable bridesmaid. Either way, “this will alleviate a lot of stress,” Keegan says. “It’s so important that everyone, including the couple, eats before the day really gets started.” Planning what you’ll eat beforehand also allows you to choose foods that will keep you energized even if you’re too jittery to eat later on—ideally, something with protein and complex carbs. Pre-think your drinks, too: Janelle had plenty of snacks on hand for her MVPs, as well as Rosa Regale sparkling red by Banfi, which, at 7 percent alcohol by volume, is light enough that everyone can enjoy a glass or two before walking down the aisle.

Have these items at the ready.

Speaking of headaches, don’t forget to have your wedding emergency kit at the ready, packed with items that will help avert mini disasters during your busy morning. Think tampons, Advil and Pepto, garment tape, a blister stick, safety pins, instant stain remover, a sewing kit. Assembling it is a fun scavenger hunt you could assign to an eager bridesmaid or mom. Two more potentially life-saving items to pack: a hand-held steamer and a power strip, for when 52 phones and hair appliances need to be plugged in and your hotel suite has 6 outlets.

Hang a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign.

Even if you’re having a destination wedding and getting ready at the hotel, your door needn’t be open to every relative and long-lost friend who’s eager to say hello. “The only people we suggest having access to the ‘getting-ready room’ are those getting hair and makeup done,” Keegan says. “It can be too overwhelming and stressful if other friends and family come in and out. You should feel free to maintain a relaxing and stress-free environment in the morning, as the rest of the day is going to be quite overwhelming.”

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Set the tone with the right music.

Don’t underestimate the power of a great wedding-morning playlist—it’s the best way to get everyone in the mood to celebrate and help keep the happy vibes flowing, even when someone’s hair tendrils won’t cooperate, or a strapless bra goes missing. Think upbeat but non-distracting (this is no time to deplete your energy/voice by belting out power ballads). With so many pre-mixed playlists to stream, you don’t even have to spend time creating your own unless you’ll enjoy that. “On Spotify I love Yacht Rock or Budda Bar, depending on what mood everyone is in—both are fun yet easy listening,” Keegan says.

 

Are you planning a destination wedding?

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With stunning locations, luxurious guest accommodations, and activities for all ages, Grand Palladium Hotels & Resorts have everything couples love. With packages designed exclusively for Palladium by celebrity wedding planner Karen Bussen, wedding preparations will be as enjoyable as they are elegant. An expert in design, flowers, food, wine and hospitality, her professionalism comes guaranteed by a wide range of experience working in New York and organizing events for celebrities and famous names in the world of business. Palldium offers a variety of international cuisine and design styles, so that every aspect of your day will be catered to your vision.

Visit: PalladiumWeddings.com

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destination Weddings: 7 Tips for Smooth Sailing

No longer an option only for the rich and famous, destination weddings have increased in popularity with couples seeking exotic locales and wanting to eliminate the hassles of wedding planning. Here, we share seven important tips for booking your wedding away.

Tip #1: Consider the time of year
Resorts and all-inclusive properties offer great deals for brides and grooms looking to wed in paradise. However, if you’re planning to exchange vows during peak seasons (holidays, summer months), expect to pay premium prices. Also, August—October is mid-hurricane season in the Caribbean. If you’re planning an island wedding around that time, be sure to inquire upon a cancellation policy for your trip.

Tip #2: Book a destination wedding at a location/with a provider that meets your standard
If you’re feeling unsure about a particular location or not impressed with the level of service, keep checking around until you find a destination and/or accommodations that are in line with your wants and wishes. If you have found the perfect place, but the packages are a bit on the pricey side, try calling the venue and letting them know that you’re interested in booking a destination wedding and are curious as to what’s available in your price range. Believe it or not, most vendors are willing work with you and your budget. Besides, it never hurts to ask.

Tip #3: Research the requirements for obtaining a marriage certificate in that area
Not all states, provinces and countries follow the same rules in regard to weddings. Even if you are working with a wedding planner provided by your resort or through a destination wedding service, take time to brush up on the laws and requirements for acquiring a marriage certificate where your ceremony will take place. Understanding how, when and where to pick up the marriage certificate will definitely save you lots of time and stress.

Tip #4: Give friends and family ample time to make preparations
If you’re inviting others to share with you on your big day, give your guests plenty of advance notice by sending out save-the-date cards. With the ever-increasing price of airfare, your guests will appreciate having a jump start on travel plans.

Tip #5: Choose a wedding photographer who’s familiar with the venue
You don’t want to entrust your wedding photos to just anyone. Find a destination weddings photographer who knows the area inside and out, or arrange for him/her to visit the venue before the big day. A good photographer will want to know the venue inside and out before your wedding to give you unique shots that reflect the style, lighting, and mood of the location.

Tip #6: Never select an all-inclusive package if it doesn’t fit your needs
An “all-inclusive” or “most-inclusive” approach to making the wedding arrangements can help to ease some of the stress, energy and time it can take to plan a destination weddings. However, if your guest list is small (or if it’s just the two of you), more isn’t always the best bet. Always select amenities and services according to your individual needs.

Tip #7: Plan activities to keep guests entertained
While you and your groom are busy tackling last minute details and meeting with vendors, keep your guests entertained by creating a list of activities and local attractions to enjoy. Since some of your guests may use vacation days to attend your ceremony, help them make the most of their trip by offering fun and leisurely things to do during destination weddings downtime.

Weddings away are just the ticket for couples who want to enjoy more of each other and worry less about the hassles associated with traditional planning. So, kick back and relax in knowing that all the details are taken care of.

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Our bride Jessica’s custom wedding dress and veil.

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Do you want the gown of your DREAMS but can’t seem to find the perfect one? Our design team can make it happen! Here are some before and after photos from one of many of our brides. If you want a full custom gown or one with personal modifications contact Giggi @ 978-568-3333

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